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My daughter Bridget, who is 8, confessed she has a crush on a boy at summer camp named Jack because he didn't kill her in War Ball today. Also, he has a dent in his chin. I'd hoped my Boy Crazy gene would skip a generation. Alas, it seems my youngest is afflicted. It began for me in kindergarten when I realized Paul Schlitz wasn't there one day.

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My daughter Bridget, who is 8, confessed she has a crush on a boy at summer camp named Jack because he didn't kill her in War Ball today. Also, he has a dent in his chin. I'd hoped my Boy Crazy gene would skip a generation. Alas, it seems my youngest is afflicted.

It began for me in kindergarten when I realized Paul Schlitz wasn't there one day. The next morning I told my mother if Paul Schlitz wasn't in class this morning I had no intention of staying.

She should wait at the curb while I checked. In second grade I had a habit of chasing boys during recess, tackling them onto the grass and kissing them.

My parents were called to school and told I must cease and desist. The boys were afraid of me. In sixth grade, my cohorts Kelly and Viv and I were called on the carpet before our triumvirate of teachers, Mrs. Springer, Mr. Smith and Mr. We were warned that the fighting with boys during recess was getting out of hand. Kelly and Viv, as one unit, slid down the couch as far away from me as possible, declaring it was me ME who was arm wrestling and fighting boys.

Which everyone in the room knew, but didn't say, was my bid for male attention. Then came the young men of middle school. Steve Bast was admittedly arrogant, but deserved to be he later became a doctor after being a pro ballplayer.

And let us not forget Todd Shermer, my first rabid infatuation, with his dimpled chin and sparkling, blue eyes. We had a particularly sensual kick fight on the blacktop after school in fifth grade. Our arm-wrestle ended in a panting stalemate. Later, when he moved away to Florida, the entire female 8th grade student body held a wake where they keened, moaned and rent their gym shorts for months, some say even years to come. Many named their firstborns after Todd. High school held a dearth of men for me.

At least the first three years. My younger sister Gina betrayed me by growing breasts, having manageable hair, a magnificent smile and the attention of all the hot seniors. She was a freshman, I was a sophomore. The ignominies! I'm still not completely over that and will occasionally snap her Spanx to remind her of her past cruelties.

The track and football God, Aaron Molinar, crossed social boundaries to ask her to go steady. Viv and I are still friends today we've just had our 38th Friend Anniversary despite the fact that Tony Cinque asked her out, too. Surprisingly, I maintained my chastity into college, but this says more about my parents than it does about me.

Make no mistake, I wanted each crush in a carnal way, even when I didn't know exactly what that entailed. I'm an years happily married woman with two great kids and I lust for my husband.

In fact, the lust seems to be getting stronger, albeit less frequent, as the years go by. But that desire to be desired by men is still there today. It's my Achilles heel, my Greek hero's tragic flaw. After giving birth to my second daughter, I was pushing her down the sidewalk in her stroller, still twenty pounds up with an ass literally bringing up the rear, when a group of Latino construction workers whistled at me.

I whipped around and cried, "Thank you! Thank you so much! I think this desire to be desired is mostly benign. Everyone enjoys feeling attractive. But I watch myself like a hawk, always checking my motivations. I don't want to kid myself about my character flaws and back my way into something stupid. I'd like to not need the approving male gaze. I'd like to be nobler than that.

And now, if my ears are to be believed, I've got to start watching my daughter like a hawk, because she's already begun arm wrestling boys. And winning. Do you need male attention? Has it ever gotten you in trouble? It did me, once. Do you judge yourself for it? How do you maintain a loving marriage and still get your needs to be the object of desire met?

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I Learned the Hard Way That Attention Seekers Are the Loneliest People

She roughhouses with them on the field like a tomboy by day and surrounds herself with them like Christmas tree lights at night? You know—the tease? It seemed to make him so untouchable, so immune to self-doubt or fear. That same brazen confidence came easily to me. Growing up in the middle of seven brothers provided a girl like me with quite an array of unlikely skills—an intimate knowledge of sporting rules, a stomach hardened against the grisly gore of war movies, expertise on how to punch someone with the least amount of force yet maximal pain aim for the bony flesh between two muscles , and so on.

I have a desire to be adored by men. As an adolescent, these expectations ran through my head constantly. Pathetic, right?

I received an e-mail from a young woman who had an interesting perspective. She had determined, from her struggles with lust and her difficulty recovering, that she was, in fact, addicted to not just porn or lust. No, she was addicted to men themselves. I can definitely see instances where it has been present in my life. I also do not think it is unique to women struggling with pornography.

What To Do With Male Attention Addiction

Both men and women crave attention, at work, at school, at home and on the streets. Attention supplies us with motivation to go out and give our best so that it can in turn, fetch us more attention. Yes it is a vicious cycle. But this is how human psychology works. We are emotional beings and we look to others to validate us emotionally, now and then, while we are on a steady run struggling to keep pace with the ever deadening mechanisation of our lives. Instead, you need to go to the roots of that which pushes you to look for emotional validation aka attention. Some of the reasons could be:. Why do you need to seek approval from others for being who you are or what you possess? Are there things inside of you that you would rather alter to feel more confident about yourself and not inferior to others? Look inside yourself and seek your own approval first.

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