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Oh, we sure do! There are of course many places we'd go back to in a heartbeat, but if we had to pick just one — Thailand! Thailand has it all, amazing beaches, a rich cultural fabric to discover, delicious food and most of all, it is very gay friendly! Bangkok, in particular, has a fantastic gay scene — in our opinion, one of the best in the world. Whilst Thailand has positioned itself to become one of Asia's leading destinations for LGBTQ travellers, we wanted to learn more about what gay life is really like from a local's perspective.
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Gay life in Thailand: interview with Saroj from Bangkok
Oh, we sure do! There are of course many places we'd go back to in a heartbeat, but if we had to pick just one — Thailand! Thailand has it all, amazing beaches, a rich cultural fabric to discover, delicious food and most of all, it is very gay friendly! Bangkok, in particular, has a fantastic gay scene — in our opinion, one of the best in the world.
Whilst Thailand has positioned itself to become one of Asia's leading destinations for LGBTQ travellers, we wanted to learn more about what gay life is really like from a local's perspective. We met cutie photographer, Saroj, in Bangkok, who gave us his perspective of what gay life in Thailand is really like and what it was like growing up gay there.
Read his story right here:. Exploring Bangkok's gay scene can be a bit overwhelming for first-timers. You can, however, join a fun gay night-time tour with a local guide to introduce you to the best gay bars and clubs. You'll not only get to make new friends but also learn about gay life in Thailand from a cute local! Find out more. Hi guys, my name is Saroj Kunatanad. I am 33 years old, born and raised in Bangkok. I am a freelance video director, photographer and also a recent Mr Gay Thailand participant.
I also love travelling and try to make as many trips when I can, which ties in nicely with my photography. Yes very much so. My mother and sister always knew, but it was more of a shock to my late father. When I was 14, my father found a gay adult DVD in my bedroom.
I was at school at the time and my sister messaged me to warn me. When he got back home, he said nothing about it at all, and life simply continued. Fast forward a few years when I got my confirmation letter accepting me into an Art School.
I was so excited and proud of myself. But when I told my father, he said that he did not want me to go. He calmed down and asked me to stay and life continued as if nothing ever happened.
Since that moment he never said anything about me being gay ever again. Just before he passed away in December , I managed to have a final conversation with him. His reply was so sweet, words which I will never forget: he told me that he simply did not want me to have a miserable life growing up, because back when he young, there were no positive gay role models at all.
He just wanted me to be happy in life. I told him I was, and he smiled. We made amends and said our goodbyes. For me, it was generally ok as I was never too girly acting or flamboyant in public.
When I was growing up, homophobia was certainly more prevalent in Thailand, but mainly because people used to think that being gay meant that you wanted to dress up like a girl. However, it is constantly getting easier, especially over the past decade as we've had more positive gay role models in the media, and LGBTQ issues are talked about more openly in the press than ever before. This is so important because it helps to normalise us and has created a more tolerant and open-minded generation of Millennials.
I am lucky that I personally never experienced any homophobia growing up. However, at High School, I always felt isolated because it was such a heteronormative environment, with little understanding or discussion about homosexuality. The concept of what a gay man is was very unclear.
There were no gay role models and we never discussed LGBTQ issues in class, so I always used to seek this out elsewhere — usually by dating older gay men. There was one time where I was sort of victimised for being gay: I was outed at school by a guy I was secretly in love with. After I told him I had strong feelings for him, he responded by telling the entire school! The arty kids didn't care about me being a queer and never passed judgment, so we got on very well together!
Dating when I was a young gay boy was a lot different from what it is today! Back then, we didn't have Grindr, Hornet, Tinder or Scruff. I would meet guys at the bars, clubs or at my gym. If he looked at me and I caught his eye, we would then follow each other and see where that would take us! The gay dating apps have had a huge impact on the gay scene and how we date in today's world. For one, they've caused the outdoor cruising spaces to completely disappear which were super popular before Grindr existed.
Places like Lumpini Park in Silom for example used to be a notorious cruising ground, but not anymore. It depends on what you're looking for, but the great thing about Thailand is that it offers everything! Bangkok is the ultimate destination. We have a terrific gay scene. It's also very real, messy, exciting and crazy! Whether you're looking for crazy parties, luxury spas, beautiful temples or world-class shopping malls, Bangkok ticks all the boxes.
Phuket is a popular gay beach party destination in Thailand. It's like Bangkok, but on a much smaller scale, and by the seaside. Chiang Mai is the cultural hub of Thailand. This is where you should come to learn more about Buddhism.
You can meet monks in many of these temples who will bless you. I also love Chiang Mai because it is surrounded by mountains and stunning scenery, which is perfect for hiking, mountain biking and clean air living! Unlike on Airbnb, you know your host is gay, avoiding any nasty surprises when you check in. It is also a great way to meet gay locals and discover the underground gay scene. I love Railey Beach in Krabi.
The landscape surrounding it is unique and so picturesque, with striking limestone cliff formations around it. It is cut off from the mainland because of the large cliff formations so you can only access it via a minute boat ride.
I've yet to see any other place in the world that is like Railey Beach. However, Railey Beach is so popular that it can get super busy during the high season November to March , particularly during the Chinese New Year, which is usually in mid-February. The weather is still very hot but you'll have the beach almost entirely to yourself. I put this down to the fact that we respect every human being equally, regardless of their background, ethnicity, religion or preference. In Thai culture, we are strongly opposed to violence.
We are a very peaceful people. Tolerance is at the heart of Buddhism, which is part of the core fabric of our society. However, by Asian standards, we are famous for being a gay haven, where you can be who you want to be without fear of being victimised or arrested. I love the gay scene of Silom Soi 4. Stranger is my favourite bar to hang out. I love the music they play as well as the drag shows.
Since Drag Race Thailand started in , Stranger Bar has become the 1 gay hangout in Bangkok because all the famous drag queens frequently hang out and perform here. Many of my friends work or DJ here, so it's like one big happy family for me. In my opinion, it's the hottest gay club in Bangkok. They've just completed a big refurb, turning the entire road of Silom Soi 2 into one big gay entertainment complex with DJ Station and several bars and chillout areas.
This is one of my favourite places in Bangkok. It has lots of hidden places just by the river, full of history and stories, which I love to show off to dates I bring here.
This is the area I grew up in and know it well. I would then take my date to my favourite spa, the Yunomori Japanese Onsen. It is beautiful as well as being the perfect place to relax, destress and detoxify.
It's not a gay sauna in any way, simply a traditional Japanese onsen, where men and women are separated into two areas, and you bathe in different heated baths. I find it to be a romantic and sensual experience. My date would finish with a delicious home-cooked meal just for the two of us — I love cooking and am super proud of my curries! The best way is to head to Silom Soi 4, to a bar like Stranger.
We love meeting foreigners — believe me, you'll feel very welcome there and quickly make lots of local friends! Otherwise, the gay dating apps, in particular, Grindr, are very popular in Bangkok.
I personally prefer using Instagram and Tinder for meeting and connecting with people. Yes very much! One of the best gay clinics in Bangkok is Pulse. This is where I go to get my PrEP supply.
During the Songkran festival, the Buddhist new year in mid-April , we have the gCircuit Festival , which includes a mix of pool parties, bear parties, and more. This is one of the biggest gay parties in Asia. It's huge — thousands of gays come here from all around the world to party.
These are super fun dress-up costume parties. It tends to be more of a mixed crowd, though recently it has become popular with younger gay guys.
Meet gays in Bangkok
For many gay travellers in Thailand, Bangkok is but a quick blip before heading to cities like Chiang Mai or one of the many islands including Phuket. But Bangkok is as complex and intriguing as any city of its size approximately 8. This gay resort is most popular with gay tourists and a great way to meet and fuck other travellers, although you will find some locals there too. The hotel also doubles up as a kind of bathhouse, with two dry saunas, two steam rooms and a communal hot tub — saying it gets frisky would be an understatement. Expect full-on orgies.
Practically the definition of a hot mess. Crowds of thronging people and a confusing but delightful mix of traditions meeting modernism. Wonderful food that is quite literally heaven in our mouth. The weather is great too!
Using a gay dating app like Grindr and co. Jack'd, Growler and Hornet is a pretty weird experience anywhere. In Thailand, it's just that little bit more special, though. Here's why:. Was that Abhisit? Cannot unsee. But we're on Grindr for the deep, meaningful conversations! Does anyone straight live here? And totally normal. Actually, I really just meant "hello.
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